There can be no hesitation in using the gun over being scared of it. Keep the experience fun, not an exercise in "get tough enough to handle a gun."Then you can start working up to a few rounds with a bit more recoil until she is ready for a low recoil home defence round. In addition to being easier on you during training, they have other properties that are good for HD: usually good penetration, tight patterns, fast follow up shots.
Make sure you do not leave the birdshot in the gun. As to which brand: try the various low recoil 00 buck shot rounds available and pick the one that patterns the best with your gun. I keep Remington #1 (sadly not available in low recoil) or Managed Recoil 00 for HD depending on the layout of the house I am in at the time. If she's petite, the gun size and weight may be an issue.
Your other ammo choices will work ok but I prefer maximum knock down and damage in HD. Small shooters with a full-sized gun tend to lean back to balance, which makes the felt recoil much worse. If she can't even come close to a strong stance, she may need something smaller to shoot comfortably.
After all, if I must fire on a person, I don't want to injure them or hurt them. The Hornady TAP you listed is not a low recoil round.
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